By Jeffrey Miller
For most students studying martial arts and self defense training, there is a critical, life-threatening mistake that they're making. This mistake is so important that, if not corrected, you could find yourself worse off in a self-defense situation than someone who never studied martial arts and self-defense at all.
This critical mistake is part of what I call, the Karate-Myth. It, along with a host of other ""false-beliefs"" can not only render all of your hard work, study, and martial arts and self-defense training completely useless...
...It can get you broken, maimed, or killed in a real-world attack from a criminal attacker who isn't going soft and slow like your training partners in your martial arts or self-defense class!
And you know what?
Its not just a mistake that students are making. This mistake is being made AND passed-on by so-called self-defense experts and martial arts black belts too!
Let's get something very clear before I let you in on my little secret. And that something is this...
...It doesn't matter_ * how well you think you know a martial arts technique, or...
* how good you are at doing that self-defense move in class.
All that will matter when the rubber-meets-the-road and you're face-to-face (or worse) with a brutal attacker who wants you dead is...
...CAN YOU DO IT THEN?!
You must realize something right now, and make no mistake about it. You must understand that, unlike most people in your life - unlike your mom, significant other, or fellow martial arts or self-defense students...
A real attacker:
* doesn't care what color your belt is
* doesn't care how many techniques you know
* isn't impressed with the names of the people you've studied under
* isn't going to help you do your technique correctly like your friend in class does - and a ton of other things you might use to impress others with your skill and "knowledge."
He only cares about one thing and one thing only. And that one thing is crushing or beating you down and getting what he wants from you.
That ""thing"" could be to:
* win the argument you were having
* get your money
* get what you were protecting
* make a point or statement (as in the case of terrorism or workplace violence)
* make you suffer, or...
* take your life!
So what is this grand mistake? I think you have a pretty good idea by now, don't you?
The mistake I'm talking about is wrongly believing that training in either the martial arts or a self-defense class without the knowledge, understanding, and experience of what a real self-defense situation is like...
...will allow you to effectively defend yourself against a street punk with real knife, or a 280 pound drunk dock worker who has you in a bone-crushing bear-hug and squeezing the very life out of your lungs!
Don't get me wrong. I'm not suggesting that you go get into a bunch of fights, or walk through the worst parts of town looking to get mugged so you can get real-life self-defense experience.
But, you can at least make sure that the person you're training with - that you're learning self-defense from - HAS the experience and knowledge you need.
You must find a teacher, mentor, or master with real-world experience or your training will end up being like the "blind-leading-the-blind!" If you don't know what you need, you have to find someone who does. And, if you don't have the experience, you MUST find a teacher who does.
A street-fighting self-defense situation is not the time to find out that what you've been spending your hard-earned time, money, and effort on...
Doesn't work!
In a future article I'll be discussing how you can know whether the program you're in is worth anything or not - even if you don't have any real-world fight or self-defense experience. But, for now, you can do some basic homework by checking out some news stories and finding out what some of the common attacks are that you may have to defend yourself against.
About The Author
Jeffrey Miller is the founder of Warrior Concepts Int'l. An ex-federal police officer, undercover investigator, and bodyguard, he specializes in teaching effective self-defense to his students and corporate clients. Learn more about real self-defense training, by going to: http://www.warrior-concepts-online.com
Kamis, 04 Desember 2008
Adjustment to a new culture
By Oksana Boichenko
The first, and most important, thing to remember is that you are the only person your lady knows in the new country. This will require additional patience and understanding on your part, as some traditions, habits, and information might be completely new to your sweetheart.
A great plus will be to have your family and friends well aware of your decision to marry someone from abroad, and use their support in making your Russian bride feel more comfortable at the new place of life. Making all necessary introductions of people important in your life as early after arrival as possible will be a big plus - but make sure you give her a few days to get on schedule after jet lag and get comfortable enough for such activities. It is also a good idea to explain what is typical in your circle of family and friends - some people have a family dinner every evening to share the events of the day, others meet only at Christmas time, some people's friends can play a more important role in their life than family, etc.
The first thing you might want to do is give your lady a quick tour of the house, places visited most often (i.e. favorite store, restaurant, etc), or the nearest city/activity center (especially if you live outside of town). This will give her an idea of where everything is located and make her feel more comfortable with the surroundings. A tour of the house might seem like a trivial thing, but it is extremely important in making your sweetheart really feel like it is her home - sometimes, not knowing where trash bags or laundry soap are located can be frustrating, especially since most women are eager to take on responsibilities of caring for the home and creating a cozy place for the two of you.
Language adjustment might also be of consideration. Being immersed in a foreign language environment might be intimidating and unnerving for your lady, and it is up to you to make sure she doesn't feel completely lost.
I have personally known many women who moved abroad with hardly a few words in their vocabulary, but within a few months they were able to communicate with the people in the new surroundings. It is not a phenomenon; being in a foreign language environment shifts the mind into overdrive and practically forces a person to learn the language faster - your lady will most likely not be able to rely on translators, things will be easy to explain or show, and she will simply have no other choice! Television, music and support from other native speakers can be additional resources to help your lady adapt and learn the language faster.
If your Russian bride has any trouble with the language, you might consider having her take special courses. For example, most English-speaking countries will not only offer English as a Foreign Language classes, but will also arrange various cross-cultural activities - both of these can help build confidence and gain necessary knowledge and practice of a new tongue. They will also help her start making friends and acquaintances, who are in the same situation as she is.
Of course, even with a perfect 10 in English (or other language), there might be cases of misunderstanding, and getting up to speed with the native speakers will take time. This adaptation period (with or without language knowledge) will require from you patience and understanding. The most important thing is not to show the frustration you might feel from not being able to have proper communication. It is a good idea to learn a few words in your sweetheart's native tongue - it will make her feel more comfortable about being in the learning stages, and she won't be the only one making mistakes.
Once your lady is comfortable with the new home and environment, you might want to consider having a discussion with her regarding her activities and interests (if you haven't done so prior to her coming). If you both want her to stay at home, a great idea might be for her to get involved in community or charity work, or if you are both willing for her to work, she might look for a simple part time job before moving on to something more serious. The main advantage of this approach lies in finding you lady an activity to occupy her time, as well as providing great language practice, getting comfortable in the new surroundings without you by her side 24/7, building new contacts, and simply not having time to feel homesick.
Missing her home might also be something for you to consider and prepare for in advance. I would suggest that you give your lady the options of keeping in touch with her family right after her arrival - this will put her at ease, and help her battle homesickness better. It is a good idea to explain upfront, which communication means you would prefer for her to use (i.e. email is ok anytime, but phone calls are expensive, so they can be done a couple of times a month, etc).
When preparing for your sweetheart to arrive, you might want to buy her a small present - something that will be uniquely hers (a t-shirt, a basket with a toothbrush and some other bathroom trinkets, her own slippers, etc), and make her feel like she already has presence in your house.
Every person's cultural adjustment needs are different, but being observant and understanding will help both of you make this transition smooth to build a happy future together.
About The Author
Oksana Boichenko OksanaLove, Inc. http://www.oksanalove.com The matchmaker with 12 years of experience in the online dating business. You can find your second half - just visit our dating site and meet your Russian bride among the thousands of beautiful Russian women.
The first, and most important, thing to remember is that you are the only person your lady knows in the new country. This will require additional patience and understanding on your part, as some traditions, habits, and information might be completely new to your sweetheart.
A great plus will be to have your family and friends well aware of your decision to marry someone from abroad, and use their support in making your Russian bride feel more comfortable at the new place of life. Making all necessary introductions of people important in your life as early after arrival as possible will be a big plus - but make sure you give her a few days to get on schedule after jet lag and get comfortable enough for such activities. It is also a good idea to explain what is typical in your circle of family and friends - some people have a family dinner every evening to share the events of the day, others meet only at Christmas time, some people's friends can play a more important role in their life than family, etc.
The first thing you might want to do is give your lady a quick tour of the house, places visited most often (i.e. favorite store, restaurant, etc), or the nearest city/activity center (especially if you live outside of town). This will give her an idea of where everything is located and make her feel more comfortable with the surroundings. A tour of the house might seem like a trivial thing, but it is extremely important in making your sweetheart really feel like it is her home - sometimes, not knowing where trash bags or laundry soap are located can be frustrating, especially since most women are eager to take on responsibilities of caring for the home and creating a cozy place for the two of you.
Language adjustment might also be of consideration. Being immersed in a foreign language environment might be intimidating and unnerving for your lady, and it is up to you to make sure she doesn't feel completely lost.
I have personally known many women who moved abroad with hardly a few words in their vocabulary, but within a few months they were able to communicate with the people in the new surroundings. It is not a phenomenon; being in a foreign language environment shifts the mind into overdrive and practically forces a person to learn the language faster - your lady will most likely not be able to rely on translators, things will be easy to explain or show, and she will simply have no other choice! Television, music and support from other native speakers can be additional resources to help your lady adapt and learn the language faster.
If your Russian bride has any trouble with the language, you might consider having her take special courses. For example, most English-speaking countries will not only offer English as a Foreign Language classes, but will also arrange various cross-cultural activities - both of these can help build confidence and gain necessary knowledge and practice of a new tongue. They will also help her start making friends and acquaintances, who are in the same situation as she is.
Of course, even with a perfect 10 in English (or other language), there might be cases of misunderstanding, and getting up to speed with the native speakers will take time. This adaptation period (with or without language knowledge) will require from you patience and understanding. The most important thing is not to show the frustration you might feel from not being able to have proper communication. It is a good idea to learn a few words in your sweetheart's native tongue - it will make her feel more comfortable about being in the learning stages, and she won't be the only one making mistakes.
Once your lady is comfortable with the new home and environment, you might want to consider having a discussion with her regarding her activities and interests (if you haven't done so prior to her coming). If you both want her to stay at home, a great idea might be for her to get involved in community or charity work, or if you are both willing for her to work, she might look for a simple part time job before moving on to something more serious. The main advantage of this approach lies in finding you lady an activity to occupy her time, as well as providing great language practice, getting comfortable in the new surroundings without you by her side 24/7, building new contacts, and simply not having time to feel homesick.
Missing her home might also be something for you to consider and prepare for in advance. I would suggest that you give your lady the options of keeping in touch with her family right after her arrival - this will put her at ease, and help her battle homesickness better. It is a good idea to explain upfront, which communication means you would prefer for her to use (i.e. email is ok anytime, but phone calls are expensive, so they can be done a couple of times a month, etc).
When preparing for your sweetheart to arrive, you might want to buy her a small present - something that will be uniquely hers (a t-shirt, a basket with a toothbrush and some other bathroom trinkets, her own slippers, etc), and make her feel like she already has presence in your house.
Every person's cultural adjustment needs are different, but being observant and understanding will help both of you make this transition smooth to build a happy future together.
About The Author
Oksana Boichenko OksanaLove, Inc. http://www.oksanalove.com The matchmaker with 12 years of experience in the online dating business. You can find your second half - just visit our dating site and meet your Russian bride among the thousands of beautiful Russian women.
How to prepare financially for a job loss and unemployment
By Nathan Evans
In the recent weeks and months we have all seen the reports and read the articles about the unemployment rate climbing at a staggering rate. We have also all seen the articles that regurgitate the same old information that has been around forever about how to prepare for unemployment. Things like, update your email contacts, save sample work to a disk, update your resume, etc, etc... That is something that most employees do on a somewhat regular basis anyhow. Unbenounced to the authors of those articles, and news stories, the days of working at one company your entire career are gone, and have been gone for several decades. Today's employees change companies more often, and the stigma of "job hopping" is just about extinct. So yes, keep your resume up to date, check with contacts you have made at your job, and keep copies of sample work, but don't expect that to keep you afloat when you do face that layoff.
The things that you need to make sure are in place are mostly financial. If your work history is good, and you are experienced in your profession, then you will more than likely find a new job. It's just a matter of how long that will take, and if you are financially ready for that amount of time. Everyone knows that you are supposed to have 4-6 months of savings for an emergency. Well, what if you used some of that savings for an emergency already? Medical co pays, deductibles, home repairs, they all take away from your savings, and also take a while to replace. And when it comes right down to it, do you really want to use all of your savings that you have worked so hard to keep, in the matter of 4-6 months while looking for a job? I sure don't. So here are some ways that you can get yourself prepared financially for a job loss or period of unemployment.
The first thing to do would be to check with your lenders, and see if they have a "skip a payment" option on any loans you may have. It is becoming much more common for lenders to do a holiday skip a payment, or have one available. That could help keep your credit rating from getting hit, and allow you to keep that much more money during your unemployment.
Next, pay down your credit cards as much as you can, that will keep your monthly expenses lower and help in the long run, even if you don't loose your job. It also gives you another source for an emergency fund if they are paid off.
Finally, look into some of the new Unemployment Protection Plans that are available in the US now. These types of plans are set up to pay the members directly with a monthly check if they loose their job and become unemployed. Unemployment or Job loss protection plans are generally paid in addition to any state unemployment benefits that you may receive. That is a really good thing, since the national unemployment check is only about $378 per week.
Hopefully you are reading this before you have come face to face with a job loss and unemployment, and you will realize that with today's economy, no ones job is safe, not even yours. Over 1.6 million U.S. workers have been laid off in the past 12 months; the best thing you can do is be prepared financially.
For more information about Unemployment and Job loss protection plans, visit http://www.thesalaryguard.com.
About The Author
Nathan Evans The Salary Guard http://www.thesalaryguard.com
In the recent weeks and months we have all seen the reports and read the articles about the unemployment rate climbing at a staggering rate. We have also all seen the articles that regurgitate the same old information that has been around forever about how to prepare for unemployment. Things like, update your email contacts, save sample work to a disk, update your resume, etc, etc... That is something that most employees do on a somewhat regular basis anyhow. Unbenounced to the authors of those articles, and news stories, the days of working at one company your entire career are gone, and have been gone for several decades. Today's employees change companies more often, and the stigma of "job hopping" is just about extinct. So yes, keep your resume up to date, check with contacts you have made at your job, and keep copies of sample work, but don't expect that to keep you afloat when you do face that layoff.
The things that you need to make sure are in place are mostly financial. If your work history is good, and you are experienced in your profession, then you will more than likely find a new job. It's just a matter of how long that will take, and if you are financially ready for that amount of time. Everyone knows that you are supposed to have 4-6 months of savings for an emergency. Well, what if you used some of that savings for an emergency already? Medical co pays, deductibles, home repairs, they all take away from your savings, and also take a while to replace. And when it comes right down to it, do you really want to use all of your savings that you have worked so hard to keep, in the matter of 4-6 months while looking for a job? I sure don't. So here are some ways that you can get yourself prepared financially for a job loss or period of unemployment.
The first thing to do would be to check with your lenders, and see if they have a "skip a payment" option on any loans you may have. It is becoming much more common for lenders to do a holiday skip a payment, or have one available. That could help keep your credit rating from getting hit, and allow you to keep that much more money during your unemployment.
Next, pay down your credit cards as much as you can, that will keep your monthly expenses lower and help in the long run, even if you don't loose your job. It also gives you another source for an emergency fund if they are paid off.
Finally, look into some of the new Unemployment Protection Plans that are available in the US now. These types of plans are set up to pay the members directly with a monthly check if they loose their job and become unemployed. Unemployment or Job loss protection plans are generally paid in addition to any state unemployment benefits that you may receive. That is a really good thing, since the national unemployment check is only about $378 per week.
Hopefully you are reading this before you have come face to face with a job loss and unemployment, and you will realize that with today's economy, no ones job is safe, not even yours. Over 1.6 million U.S. workers have been laid off in the past 12 months; the best thing you can do is be prepared financially.
For more information about Unemployment and Job loss protection plans, visit http://www.thesalaryguard.com.
About The Author
Nathan Evans The Salary Guard http://www.thesalaryguard.com
Selasa, 02 Desember 2008
Goal Setting - Why is Goal Setting So Important?
By Benjamin Robert Ehinger
There have been many people of ther years that swear by setting goals and they do it on a yearly, quaterly, monthly, weekly, and daily basis. Do they achieve each goal they set just because they set their goal? Are they more successful than someone that does not set goals? Why is goal setting so important and how can it be done effectively? Here are the answers and more.
First, you have to understand that just because someone sets a goal does not mean they will achieve it. However, because they set the goal there is a better chance that they will achieve it and there is a better chance that if they do not achieve it, they will still do better than they would have without the goal. Goals are one of the most important things to have in life, but you have to be reasonable.
If you are in sales or do anything of that nature, then you know all about goals. They can be very demanding on your time, your efforts, and your brain. This is good, though. As human beings we may not like to be challenged, but when we are challenged we thrive and we find out who we really are. If you set a goal for yourself and you have the determineation to chase after the goal, then you will probably get that goal sooner or later.
Second, you have to know how to properly set goals so that you can achieve them. When you do not achieve a goal or even get close to it, then you will lose some of your drive and some of your self confidence. This is not good. It is best to set reasonable goals that are not too low that they do not challenge you, but not so high that they are impossible to reach. Start off small and work your way up.
Last, break your goals down. Set a goal for the year, then break it down into quarterly, monthly, weekly, and daily goals. It can be very helpful when setting goals that you add some smaller goals that are easy to achieve on a daily and weekly basis. That way when you get to cross them off you can see your progress and know that you are getting much closer to your ultimate goals for the week and year.
About The Author
Are you ready to achieve more success than you ever have before? Discover why Goal Setting is so powerful and how to properly set your goals here:
http://www.Free-Offer-Sites.info/Goals/Articles/Goal-Setting.html
There have been many people of ther years that swear by setting goals and they do it on a yearly, quaterly, monthly, weekly, and daily basis. Do they achieve each goal they set just because they set their goal? Are they more successful than someone that does not set goals? Why is goal setting so important and how can it be done effectively? Here are the answers and more.
First, you have to understand that just because someone sets a goal does not mean they will achieve it. However, because they set the goal there is a better chance that they will achieve it and there is a better chance that if they do not achieve it, they will still do better than they would have without the goal. Goals are one of the most important things to have in life, but you have to be reasonable.
If you are in sales or do anything of that nature, then you know all about goals. They can be very demanding on your time, your efforts, and your brain. This is good, though. As human beings we may not like to be challenged, but when we are challenged we thrive and we find out who we really are. If you set a goal for yourself and you have the determineation to chase after the goal, then you will probably get that goal sooner or later.
Second, you have to know how to properly set goals so that you can achieve them. When you do not achieve a goal or even get close to it, then you will lose some of your drive and some of your self confidence. This is not good. It is best to set reasonable goals that are not too low that they do not challenge you, but not so high that they are impossible to reach. Start off small and work your way up.
Last, break your goals down. Set a goal for the year, then break it down into quarterly, monthly, weekly, and daily goals. It can be very helpful when setting goals that you add some smaller goals that are easy to achieve on a daily and weekly basis. That way when you get to cross them off you can see your progress and know that you are getting much closer to your ultimate goals for the week and year.
About The Author
Are you ready to achieve more success than you ever have before? Discover why Goal Setting is so powerful and how to properly set your goals here:
http://www.Free-Offer-Sites.info/Goals/Articles/Goal-Setting.html
The Benefit of Feng Shui Consultations
By Kacy Suther
If you re considering hiring a feng shui consulting service, it is definitely worth the time and money. The principles of feng shui encourage beneficial energy, balance, and harmony into living and work space. It makes sense that if you re spending a lot of time in these environments you d want them to be as comfortable as possible. Removing unwanted clutter, organizing, and rearranging space will help you be healthier, happier, and more creative. This new outlook attracts prosperity in every aspect of life, including higher self esteem, increased energy, feelings of empowerment, improved health, and an attraction to healthier relationships.
Before you hire a feng shui consulting service, it might be helpful to know the basics of ch i and what benefits occur when these principles are considered. There are 3 basic principles of defining ch i, which is the energy that makes things alive, connected to each other, and moving through the universe. All objects have living energy that is called ch i. This doesn t mean that your desk is a living thing; it means that the reaction you have to your desk makes it alive. If we surround ourselves with things that have positive ch i, as is encouraged in feng shui, we should have a greater sense of well being and a higher energy level. The second defining principle of ch i is that it connects every physical thing. This relates to feng shui in this way: if we declutter our home office, for example, we ll likely have a lowered stress level and heightened creativity. In turn, we ll probably be more kind and loving to our families which will improve those relationships. It s a chain of positive feedback. The third principle of ch i is that everything is constantly changing. Feng shui takes this dynamic quality of people and their lives into account, which is why surroundings need to change over time as the person does.
Feng shui encourages consciousness toward the various aspects of an environment. This consciousness is then channeled for the purpose of discovering what items in that environment aren t enhancing our lives. When these items are removed, the space is then opened up for energy to flow through. This energy flows through our work and home space and into our lives, as well.
You don t need a feng shui certification or various feng shui consultations to begin practicing the principles of feng shui, but it s definitely helpful to have at least one session with a feng shui expert. There are various books available on the subject of feng shui, but for consistent results feng shui must be studied seriously and thoroughly. Hiring a feng shui master will improve the energy in your environment, which will have vast benefits on the quality of your life.
About The Author
Written by Kacy Suther. Feng shui consultations provide feng shui consulting and feng shui certification at the Center for Feng Shui and Intuitive Arts in New Hampshire.
If you re considering hiring a feng shui consulting service, it is definitely worth the time and money. The principles of feng shui encourage beneficial energy, balance, and harmony into living and work space. It makes sense that if you re spending a lot of time in these environments you d want them to be as comfortable as possible. Removing unwanted clutter, organizing, and rearranging space will help you be healthier, happier, and more creative. This new outlook attracts prosperity in every aspect of life, including higher self esteem, increased energy, feelings of empowerment, improved health, and an attraction to healthier relationships.
Before you hire a feng shui consulting service, it might be helpful to know the basics of ch i and what benefits occur when these principles are considered. There are 3 basic principles of defining ch i, which is the energy that makes things alive, connected to each other, and moving through the universe. All objects have living energy that is called ch i. This doesn t mean that your desk is a living thing; it means that the reaction you have to your desk makes it alive. If we surround ourselves with things that have positive ch i, as is encouraged in feng shui, we should have a greater sense of well being and a higher energy level. The second defining principle of ch i is that it connects every physical thing. This relates to feng shui in this way: if we declutter our home office, for example, we ll likely have a lowered stress level and heightened creativity. In turn, we ll probably be more kind and loving to our families which will improve those relationships. It s a chain of positive feedback. The third principle of ch i is that everything is constantly changing. Feng shui takes this dynamic quality of people and their lives into account, which is why surroundings need to change over time as the person does.
Feng shui encourages consciousness toward the various aspects of an environment. This consciousness is then channeled for the purpose of discovering what items in that environment aren t enhancing our lives. When these items are removed, the space is then opened up for energy to flow through. This energy flows through our work and home space and into our lives, as well.
You don t need a feng shui certification or various feng shui consultations to begin practicing the principles of feng shui, but it s definitely helpful to have at least one session with a feng shui expert. There are various books available on the subject of feng shui, but for consistent results feng shui must be studied seriously and thoroughly. Hiring a feng shui master will improve the energy in your environment, which will have vast benefits on the quality of your life.
About The Author
Written by Kacy Suther. Feng shui consultations provide feng shui consulting and feng shui certification at the Center for Feng Shui and Intuitive Arts in New Hampshire.
Seven Tips on How to Provide Stress Relief to a Friend
By Ann Stewart
We are living in a stressful age and many folks are having a hard time coping with it. Stress can creep up suddenly and unannounced, and is exceptionally hard on those who live alone.
You can do your part to provide some stress relief for a friend or acquaintance that you know is in a stressful situation:
1. Realize that most people suffering from stress don't want to show it or ask for help.
Instead of feeling offended at being snubbed, be alert as to the reason of your friend's gloomy attitude and show support. Making light of situations and displaying a positive attitude helps alleviate stress.
2. Look for warning signs of stress, or deeper depression that could be a result of stress.
Some telltale signs of stress are lack of appetite, a gradual drawing away from friends and family, absenteeism from work, extreme fatigue, lack of interest in hitherto favorite pastimes, and sudden changes in appearance.
Once you have determined that stress indeed is the reason for your friend's change in behavior, you are then in a better position to help relief the burden.
3. Assure your friend that you can be counted on as a true friend and will be there right to the end.
Keep in touch regularly to encourage and offer a listening ear. Assurance of friendship is very powerful and, until your friend is ready to acknowledge any tangible help, it may be all that's needed at that moment.
4. Provide a listening ear.
Being a good listener helps the stressful one to unload and look the problem square in the eye and come to terms with it.
5. Offer to do something tangible, like babysitting a single mom's child for a couple of hours of respite.
Very often the stress is due to being overwhelmed with too many tasks. Wherever possible, you can help your friend identify which heavy, time consuming or difficult task can be alleviated, delegated or even discarded altogether.
6. Invite your friend out for dinner, a movie, or a board game.
Especially for folks who live alone, it is important to get out and do some form of physical activity. This will help increase appetite as well, which is so vital. Keep the conversation light and uplifting.
7. Provide energizing nutrition
The stressful person generally has neither energy nor desire to cook a nutritious meal, eat healthy snacks or take nutritional supplements. If at all possible, depending on the circumstances, an important thing you can do is to provide your friend with an easy to take, pleasant tasting nutritional, high antioxidant smoothy or juice. This will bring spark back into the cells and help reinforce the zest for life. Stress maintenance and the immune system are interdependent. When you are stressed out, your immune system needs to be reinforced. The reverse is also true. That's where antioxidants come in. They are the immune system picker uppers par excellence.
About The Author
Ann Stewart is a nutritional health coach. Ann recommends: http://health-s-care.com and http://youthmakeover.com for anti aging and stress management.
We are living in a stressful age and many folks are having a hard time coping with it. Stress can creep up suddenly and unannounced, and is exceptionally hard on those who live alone.
You can do your part to provide some stress relief for a friend or acquaintance that you know is in a stressful situation:
1. Realize that most people suffering from stress don't want to show it or ask for help.
Instead of feeling offended at being snubbed, be alert as to the reason of your friend's gloomy attitude and show support. Making light of situations and displaying a positive attitude helps alleviate stress.
2. Look for warning signs of stress, or deeper depression that could be a result of stress.
Some telltale signs of stress are lack of appetite, a gradual drawing away from friends and family, absenteeism from work, extreme fatigue, lack of interest in hitherto favorite pastimes, and sudden changes in appearance.
Once you have determined that stress indeed is the reason for your friend's change in behavior, you are then in a better position to help relief the burden.
3. Assure your friend that you can be counted on as a true friend and will be there right to the end.
Keep in touch regularly to encourage and offer a listening ear. Assurance of friendship is very powerful and, until your friend is ready to acknowledge any tangible help, it may be all that's needed at that moment.
4. Provide a listening ear.
Being a good listener helps the stressful one to unload and look the problem square in the eye and come to terms with it.
5. Offer to do something tangible, like babysitting a single mom's child for a couple of hours of respite.
Very often the stress is due to being overwhelmed with too many tasks. Wherever possible, you can help your friend identify which heavy, time consuming or difficult task can be alleviated, delegated or even discarded altogether.
6. Invite your friend out for dinner, a movie, or a board game.
Especially for folks who live alone, it is important to get out and do some form of physical activity. This will help increase appetite as well, which is so vital. Keep the conversation light and uplifting.
7. Provide energizing nutrition
The stressful person generally has neither energy nor desire to cook a nutritious meal, eat healthy snacks or take nutritional supplements. If at all possible, depending on the circumstances, an important thing you can do is to provide your friend with an easy to take, pleasant tasting nutritional, high antioxidant smoothy or juice. This will bring spark back into the cells and help reinforce the zest for life. Stress maintenance and the immune system are interdependent. When you are stressed out, your immune system needs to be reinforced. The reverse is also true. That's where antioxidants come in. They are the immune system picker uppers par excellence.
About The Author
Ann Stewart is a nutritional health coach. Ann recommends: http://health-s-care.com and http://youthmakeover.com for anti aging and stress management.
Personal Goal Setting - What You Need To Know
By Benjamin Robert Ehinger
Are you trying to set goals so that you can have a better life? There are a few categories that you can seperate your goals into. These include: career goals, education goals, financial goals, and personal goals. This article will talk specifically about personal goal setting.
The first step in setting goals for yourself is to figure out what in the world you want out of your personal life. If you are single, then maybe your goal is to find your mate, but not just any mate, of course. You would want to find the one that is right for you and makes you a better person.
Maybe your goals include some traveling. This means that you would have to map out where you want to go, how you are going to afford it, and when you will be able to go. The idea is to always have something to look forward to no matter what your personal goals are.
When we, as humans, have something to look forward to it gives our lives a meaning and allows us to be happier. This is why it is so important to take vacation time, make changes in our lives, and to continue to grow as people. When you set personal goals you are setting yourself up for growth.
When you are trying to figure out what you want out of your life you might want to sit down and write down all kinds of dreams and goals you have. Shoot for writing down 100 dreams and goals. This will be a bit difficult so do not leave out anything no matter how difficult or off the wall it may be.
Then, you will want to categorize these things into things you can do within a 10 years, within 5 years, within 1 year, and in the next 90 days. This will give you a good basis to start with and if some of your goals change over time that is okay. Just update your personal goal settings and move on.
About The Author
Are you ready to achieve more success than you ever have before? Discover why Personal Goal Setting is so powerful and how to properly set your goals here:
http://www.Free-Offer-Sites.info/Goals/Articles/Personal-Goal-Setting.html
Are you trying to set goals so that you can have a better life? There are a few categories that you can seperate your goals into. These include: career goals, education goals, financial goals, and personal goals. This article will talk specifically about personal goal setting.
The first step in setting goals for yourself is to figure out what in the world you want out of your personal life. If you are single, then maybe your goal is to find your mate, but not just any mate, of course. You would want to find the one that is right for you and makes you a better person.
Maybe your goals include some traveling. This means that you would have to map out where you want to go, how you are going to afford it, and when you will be able to go. The idea is to always have something to look forward to no matter what your personal goals are.
When we, as humans, have something to look forward to it gives our lives a meaning and allows us to be happier. This is why it is so important to take vacation time, make changes in our lives, and to continue to grow as people. When you set personal goals you are setting yourself up for growth.
When you are trying to figure out what you want out of your life you might want to sit down and write down all kinds of dreams and goals you have. Shoot for writing down 100 dreams and goals. This will be a bit difficult so do not leave out anything no matter how difficult or off the wall it may be.
Then, you will want to categorize these things into things you can do within a 10 years, within 5 years, within 1 year, and in the next 90 days. This will give you a good basis to start with and if some of your goals change over time that is okay. Just update your personal goal settings and move on.
About The Author
Are you ready to achieve more success than you ever have before? Discover why Personal Goal Setting is so powerful and how to properly set your goals here:
http://www.Free-Offer-Sites.info/Goals/Articles/Personal-Goal-Setting.html
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